The Responses

D day has come and gone and we now have a locked guest list which will only change if people decide they cannot attend over the next 12 days. Brainstorming a list of our friends and family to invite served as the initial activity of our wedding planning process and I can’t believe it’s wrapped up. Well, almost wrapped up as we spent tonight in the mind-boggling process of the seating chart, but that’s for another day.


It’s a pretty exciting process finding out each day who has sent in their card and if they will or will not be making it. I’m always pretty bad at getting those response cards back in for weddings on time, but I was surprised to see how many other people end up in the same boat as myself and it crosses all demographics. I always act like it’s a major chore to write a number, seal the envelope, and drop it in mailbox. Anyway after a one-week grace period we had to put the screws to a few people and we’re good to go. I will say I have learned the importance of getting them in on time. Here are some fun facts from our experience.

Number of Guests Invited: 199
Number of Invitations: 108
Number of Guests: 143
Number of Yes Responses Before Receiving a No: 32
Number of Responses not Received: 15
Number of Guests we Never Heard from: 4
Number of Wedding Crashers Expected: 0
Number of Guests Lost due to the Holiday Weekend: 3
Number of Surprising Rejections: 4
Number of Wild Cards (Will they or won’t they Show): 14
Number of Awful Excuses (Seriously, just say you can’t make it): 3
Number of People who Better Show Up Ready to Party: 142